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Boundaries While Having a Crush

Posted by Faith Mackey on Feb 6, 2023 12:12:22 PM
Faith Mackey

Most people have crushes during their lives. It's a normal part of growing up and getting to know people. Most crushes are harmless, but some can cause problems if they go on for too long or if you're not careful about handling them. If you want to learn how to deal with having a crush in a healthy, respectful way, then this article is for you!

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Respect Their 'No'

If you ask someone out or confess your feelings for them and they do not feel the same way, respect that answer. It is hard to tell someone you do not feel the same way, just as it is hard to confess your feelings for someone. Do not make them feel bad for having the courage to be honest. It is in your best interest to find someone who reciprocates back the feelings you feel for them! 

  • Don't keep asking them to go out. If they say no, respect that and move on.

  • Please don't try to talk them into going out with you. That will only make them feel bad and make the situation worse for everyone involved.

  • Don't try to make your crush feel guilty for saying no, or try to make yourself feel better by making their refusal the reason why you aren't dating them (as if it were their fault). It's not fair—and it won't help anything in the long run.

Respect Their Space

If the other person is not interested, respect his or her wishes. You may be a great friend to someone, but that doesn't necessarily mean they want to date you. If you've met someone new and are into them, don't be too pushy when talking about your feelings—and don't spend all of your time with them if it makes them uncomfortable! If they seem like they'd prefer to keep things platonic, let them go about their day and try not to think about it too much.

If you've been friends with this person for a long time and there's no change in their behavior toward you (i.e., if he/she still treats you like a friend), then it might be safe for you both to assume that this isn't going anywhere romantic anytime soon—or perhaps ever. Don't let yourself get caught up in the "what if?" game: sometimes people just aren't meant for each other romantically; that doesn't mean they won't always care deeply about one another as friends or family members!

Respect Their Relationship Status

  • Respect their relationship status. If they are in a relationship, respect that they are not single. They have chosen to be in that relationship and will likely have many reasons for doing so. They may even be very happy about it!

  • The same is true if they are not currently in a relationship; maybe they are waiting for the right person, or enjoy being single.

Either way, respecting their decision is crucial to maintaining good boundaries around them and not making them uncomfortable or feeling bad about themselves for being with someone else/being unavailable to date you at this time.

Respect Them as a Friend

Think of them as your friend.

When you’re crushing on someone, it can feel like their personality has been replaced by a full-body mirror that only reflects how much you like them, and that can feel very validating. But in reality, those people are still human beings with their own thoughts and feelings—and they deserve respect from you as much as any other person does! So treat them like the person they really are: kind, caring, respectful of your feelings (and theirs), respectful of their time (and yours), and respectful of their space (and yours).

Be respectful, kind, and caring

It's important to understand that there is a respectful, kind, and caring way to go about telling someone you have a crush on them. You do not want to be pushy or a pest when it comes to expressing your feelings towards them. Your crush does not need to know every detail of your life or have constant contact with you for you to make your feelings known. If the person has made it clear that they are not interested in dating at this time (or ever), then it is best for both parties if you respect their wishes and move on with your life. It's also important that if things don't work out between you and the object of your affection now, later down the road may be different! But it is important to move on and respect the other persons boundaries if feelings are not reciprocated.

It's natural for people who are crushing on someone else to feel frustrated when things don't work out how we planned but remember: there are plenty of other fish in the sea! What matters most isn't whether or not one particular fish bites (or doesn't bite) during any given season—what matters most is making sure we continue to respect others' boundaries and our own.


In conclusion, it’s important to respect someone’s boundaries when you have a crush on someone. Not everyone is looking for a relationship, and even if they are, it doesn’t mean that they want you in particular. So be nice, be thoughtful and respectful of their feelings, and be sure to be mindful when asking someone out.

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