Have you ever had a bad day? Of course you have. We all have. Sometimes when we're having a bad day, or going through a tough time, we say things that we don't necessarily mean. Or we say things in a way that can be interpreted as hurtful or spiteful.
When we are angry, upset, tired, or feeling ignored, we can react in a negative way. Usually the words we say or the way we say something isn't what we really meant to say.
like an iceberg in the ocean
Above the water is a small visible chunk of ice. Much like the captain of the Titanic, it's easy to think that there is not much under the surface and you can just float on by. However, as the captain found out, there is a whole lot more going on under the surface.
By ignoring what's under the surface, the captain caused the luxury liner to sink and left Leo to drown (even if there was enough room on that door!).
By identifying what is under the surface, we can practice reframing our thoughts. This helps refine our self-management skills, and may prevent saying something we don't mean the next time we're in a stressful situation or having a conflict with a peer.
Here is an activity that you can use with your students—or for yourself—to practice identifying what's under the surface. Click on this link or on the image to download a PDF.
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